Forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others are just two currents in the same river, both hindered or shut off completely by the dam of resentment. Once that dam is lifted, both currents can flow. The Steps of A.A. allow me to see how resentment has built up and subsequently blocked off this flow in my life. The Steps provide a way by which my resentments may-by the grace of God as I understand Him- be lifted. It is as a result of this solution that I can find the necessary grace which enables me to forgive myself and others.